Water Your Relationships with Love
Love is more important than anything else. It is what ties everything completely together. – Colossians 3:14
When I was in 4th grade as part of our Science experiment, we are told to plant. Our Science teacher bought some seeds and told us to bring some pot.
We are to observe how plants grow from day one to week four.
During the 4-week experiment we water our plants regularly, put it on sunlight during the day and even put it inside the classroom when it rains. We are focused on one objective, to make the plant grow.
Day after day, we observed how our plants grew. Until finally, we are told to take our plants at home
I had mine placed on our backyard, not in the garden so that I could personally water it everyday. But I failed. And soon the plant died.
Water Your Relationships with Love
Your relationships are just like plants.
You need to water them daily or they die.
For relationships, their water is love.
If you don’t give your relationships enough time, or attention, or respect, or kindness, all of which are expressions of love, they too will die.
Just like a plant, you have to water your relationships regularly. Nurture it deliberately and purposefully focus on making it grow.
Today I’ll share with you three of the many ways on how to make your relationship grow in love. Keep on reading.
Deliberately Create Patterns of Connection
Spending time with each other must be a pattern, or it won’t happen. You can’t say, “I’ll date my girlfriend/spouse whenever I’ll have some extra time.” or “I’ll visit my parents if my weekends schedule lightens up.” Believe me, they’ll never happen.
My girlfriend and I meet up every Tuesday night for our weekly date. We are doing it for less than a year now. Two years ago we have it every Saturday. Nothing touches that sacred time not unless some really bad things happen like if a comet falls on the surface of the planet and all living and non-living things ceases to exist. Other than that, nothing can touch my date with her.
As for my Dad, we talk over a cup of coffee every Monday night. Where we talk about all our concerns in the world, where we laugh at ourselves about the crazy things that happened to us over the week and he’ll say, “Make me another cup of coffee after that prepare for bed, it’s getting late.”
And for my Mom, we walk every morning going to the bakery. Toast some bread and chat over a cup of coffee where we talk about life in general.
As for my two brothers, we shoot basketball every Saturday morning. We play basketball change the loser where we play until we catch up for our breath.
For my sister, we haven’t been dating for the longest time. She has been very busy all her life and maybe she doesn’t appreciate dates yet. But what we do is we wait for her before we eat at night. So far, that’s the most.
Bond as a Family
One of the easiest ways to do this is to dine together, as much as possible aim to have all the members of the family present in the dining table when you eat. Make every meal a party without regards of the food you are eating. Focus on the thought that you are eating with your family.
Every Monday night we wait for all the members of the family before we eat. That has been our practice since we moved here in Bulacan.
That is what I mean by “deliberately creating patterns if connection.” Purposefully set aside time for your loved ones.
Remember, patterns don’t just happen. You should make them happen regularly, or they don’t happen at all.
But deliberately creating patterns of connection isn’t enough. You need to determine the quality of these connections…
Be Kind
This one is a classic. It has been taught since we are in preparatory up to high school and even some units during our college. It may sound boring, but it’s sure effective.
Friends, if you want to have happy relationships. Be kind.
If only husbands become kind to their wives and vice-versa, a lot of marriages will be saved. And if only parents become kind to their kids and vice-versa, there’ll be less drug addicts and drug pushers around.
Like what grandma always say about kindness:
1. To speak with respect.
2. To be courteous.
3. To show affection.
4. To give affirmation.
5. To be gentle.
6. To serve in the little things.
7. To smile and delight when you see them.
The list is endless. But sure grandma is right after all. Be kind.
If you want to have happy relationships, make a decision to be kind to everyone today. Show kindness everyday!
The third principle is equally important as creating patterns of connection and being kind. Keep on reading.
Pray For Your Love Ones
Having God at the center of all your relationships makes it even stronger. Intercede for your loved ones. Always pray for them.
Since we have been boyfriend and girlfriend, Shiela has been my prayer partner. For more than four years now we pray together and intercede for one another. That explain why we have been in this relationship so strong and getting stronger through the years.
When I was younger, my friends go to church with my other friends. Me? I go with my family.
Friends these are only three of the many ways you can water you relationships with love. The list could be endless, but I believe it could be summed up to these three powerful principles: deliberately create patterns of connection, be kind and pray for your loved ones.
Change Your Life by Changing Your Relationship
If you squeeze out the essence of life, you realize that life is all about relationships. Your happiness, your success, your health, and your dreams depend on relationships.
If our bodies hunger for food, our hearts hunger for love.
If food is the fuel of the body, love is the fuel of the soul.
Without food, our bodies die. And without love, our hearts die.
Happy relationships don’t just happen. You make them happen.
In HIM,
Jobie P. Doblado
P.S.1
I encourage you to love more everyday, especially those people around you.
P.S.2
Focus on one objective: to make your relationship grow in love.
When I was in 4th grade as part of our Science experiment, we are told to plant. Our Science teacher bought some seeds and told us to bring some pot.
We are to observe how plants grow from day one to week four.
During the 4-week experiment we water our plants regularly, put it on sunlight during the day and even put it inside the classroom when it rains. We are focused on one objective, to make the plant grow.
Day after day, we observed how our plants grew. Until finally, we are told to take our plants at home
I had mine placed on our backyard, not in the garden so that I could personally water it everyday. But I failed. And soon the plant died.
Water Your Relationships with Love
Your relationships are just like plants.
You need to water them daily or they die.
For relationships, their water is love.
If you don’t give your relationships enough time, or attention, or respect, or kindness, all of which are expressions of love, they too will die.
Just like a plant, you have to water your relationships regularly. Nurture it deliberately and purposefully focus on making it grow.
Today I’ll share with you three of the many ways on how to make your relationship grow in love. Keep on reading.
Deliberately Create Patterns of Connection
Spending time with each other must be a pattern, or it won’t happen. You can’t say, “I’ll date my girlfriend/spouse whenever I’ll have some extra time.” or “I’ll visit my parents if my weekends schedule lightens up.” Believe me, they’ll never happen.
My girlfriend and I meet up every Tuesday night for our weekly date. We are doing it for less than a year now. Two years ago we have it every Saturday. Nothing touches that sacred time not unless some really bad things happen like if a comet falls on the surface of the planet and all living and non-living things ceases to exist. Other than that, nothing can touch my date with her.
As for my Dad, we talk over a cup of coffee every Monday night. Where we talk about all our concerns in the world, where we laugh at ourselves about the crazy things that happened to us over the week and he’ll say, “Make me another cup of coffee after that prepare for bed, it’s getting late.”
And for my Mom, we walk every morning going to the bakery. Toast some bread and chat over a cup of coffee where we talk about life in general.
As for my two brothers, we shoot basketball every Saturday morning. We play basketball change the loser where we play until we catch up for our breath.
For my sister, we haven’t been dating for the longest time. She has been very busy all her life and maybe she doesn’t appreciate dates yet. But what we do is we wait for her before we eat at night. So far, that’s the most.
Bond as a Family
One of the easiest ways to do this is to dine together, as much as possible aim to have all the members of the family present in the dining table when you eat. Make every meal a party without regards of the food you are eating. Focus on the thought that you are eating with your family.
Every Monday night we wait for all the members of the family before we eat. That has been our practice since we moved here in Bulacan.
That is what I mean by “deliberately creating patterns if connection.” Purposefully set aside time for your loved ones.
Remember, patterns don’t just happen. You should make them happen regularly, or they don’t happen at all.
But deliberately creating patterns of connection isn’t enough. You need to determine the quality of these connections…
Be Kind
This one is a classic. It has been taught since we are in preparatory up to high school and even some units during our college. It may sound boring, but it’s sure effective.
Friends, if you want to have happy relationships. Be kind.
If only husbands become kind to their wives and vice-versa, a lot of marriages will be saved. And if only parents become kind to their kids and vice-versa, there’ll be less drug addicts and drug pushers around.
Like what grandma always say about kindness:
1. To speak with respect.
2. To be courteous.
3. To show affection.
4. To give affirmation.
5. To be gentle.
6. To serve in the little things.
7. To smile and delight when you see them.
The list is endless. But sure grandma is right after all. Be kind.
If you want to have happy relationships, make a decision to be kind to everyone today. Show kindness everyday!
The third principle is equally important as creating patterns of connection and being kind. Keep on reading.
Pray For Your Love Ones
Having God at the center of all your relationships makes it even stronger. Intercede for your loved ones. Always pray for them.
Since we have been boyfriend and girlfriend, Shiela has been my prayer partner. For more than four years now we pray together and intercede for one another. That explain why we have been in this relationship so strong and getting stronger through the years.
When I was younger, my friends go to church with my other friends. Me? I go with my family.
Friends these are only three of the many ways you can water you relationships with love. The list could be endless, but I believe it could be summed up to these three powerful principles: deliberately create patterns of connection, be kind and pray for your loved ones.
Change Your Life by Changing Your Relationship
If you squeeze out the essence of life, you realize that life is all about relationships. Your happiness, your success, your health, and your dreams depend on relationships.
If our bodies hunger for food, our hearts hunger for love.
If food is the fuel of the body, love is the fuel of the soul.
Without food, our bodies die. And without love, our hearts die.
Happy relationships don’t just happen. You make them happen.
In HIM,
Jobie P. Doblado
P.S.1
I encourage you to love more everyday, especially those people around you.
P.S.2
Focus on one objective: to make your relationship grow in love.
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