Live a Life of No Indifference
For now there are faith, hope and love. But of these three, the greatest is love. – 1 Corinthians 13:13, CEV.
Mr. Pancake Meal
My younger brother works as service crew in McDonalds, Quezon Avenue. He shares with me a story about a painful regret, here goes.
Henry and Liza are good old couple who regularly dine at the store, if not everyday, every other day. They are both nice to the crew and the management. Henry and Liza always offer their sweetest smile whenever they’re there. Good thing to start the day. They are regular breakfast customers.
We call Henry, Mr. Pancake Meal. Here’s why, his order are two piece pancakes with extra butter and strawberry jam, regular coffee with extra sugar (ten sachets) and creamer (ten sachets) and will request for an almost two inches thick tissues.
One morning Liza entered the store alone sobbing. He approached the ordering counter and told us her husband died the other night of heart attack.
Several days after Henry died. Liza entered the store with a younger version of her husband. The younger version sits her mother and approached me.
“Hi I’m Sam. I’m Henry’s son. My Mom told me to make her regular order and Dad’s. Make also one for me.”
I called out, “Two Mr. Pancake Meal please!”
Out of surprise the kitchen crew stares on the dining area looking for Henry.
“I’m not kidding you, it’s for his son.” I said smiling.
To Sam’s amazement, he asked me about the extra butter, the strawberry jam, the ten sachets of sugar and creamer and the two inches thick tissues.
“That’s how your Dad wanted. This is his regular order.“
He stares on his Mom with an almost teardrop on his cheek.
For 40 days, Sam and her Mom walks to the store every morning to reminisce Henry. Unfortunately for Sam, he couldn’t be with his father anymore.
Liza once told us that Henry and Sam has some misunderstandings and has not been talking for the longest time. Henry died without his son’s reconciliation and Sam lives without his Dad’s reconciliation.
The Most Painful Regret
If not taking enough risk is the most common regret a man could ever have, failure in relationship is the most painful one.
Regrets like, “I didn’t spend enough time with my family.”
“I didn’t put people over things”
“I didn’t express my love”
“I didn’t apologize and repair a broken relationship”
Our most painful regret could be that we didn’t love enough.
The Only Key to Happiness
God wants you to be happy. This is what I believe: God has already lined up all the right blessings, all the right miracles and all the right people to bless your life. Especially the right people, your family, your friends, your neighbors, your boss, your officemates and all the people around you.
Because God wants you to be happy by having happy relationships; God only has one strategy to make you happy and it's through happy relationships, nothing more nothing less. No plan B. It’s through happy relationships or bust.
Because if you squeeze out the essence of life, you will realize that life is all about relationships. Your happiness, your success, your health, and your dreams depend on your relationships. In other words your life is all about love. That is why the greatest commandment is about love; Because God wants us to be happy.
Friends my big message for you today is: “Become love.”
Becoming Love
You might ask, “If the only key to happiness is becoming love, how do I do it?”
There’s the word, “gratitude”. I read this from a book:
Love creates forgiveness.
Forgiveness creates acceptance.
Acceptance creates gratitude.
Gratitude creates happiness.
Thus, if you want to be happy, be grateful.
Three Steps to Having a Happy Relationship
According to a Catholic Lay Preacher and writer Bro. Bo Sanchez, there are really three steps to becoming love. Step 1, be grateful for you, step 2, be grateful for the love you received and lastly, be grateful for the love you gave.
Be Grateful For You
The adage that says “You can never give what you don’t have” will always remain true.
How do you become love if you don’t love yourself?
Reflect on this, the Bible said “God knitted you in your mother’s womb”. Take note of the word knitted. God don’t just line you up in a manufacturing assembly nor let you mass reproduced by angels in heaven.
God personally knitted you.
Specially and wonderfully made, so why would you feel ungrateful for who you are?
Starting today, thank God for who you are and be grateful for the blessings He has poured in your life.
Be Grateful For the Love You Received
I heard of a story about a man who walks in a bar and ordered a drink. The bartender asked the man why he is drinking. The man said, “I have been working so hard for this. I should have earned P500,000 instead of P250,000. I’m 50% below my set quota and I feel bad about it. Damn!”
Several minutes later a group of men entered the bar in celebration mode. The bartender asked them what’s the call for the celebration; The happiest in the group said, “My boss increased my salary from P19,000 to P19,570. It pays off all the great things I did for the company. God has been so good to me. I feel so blessed!"
Is P250,000 close to P570? Obviously no, it’s not even 1%. What lies between them is gratitude, a thankful heart.
The same is true with relationships. If you want to grow in your relationships, be grateful for the love you received. Always fill the gap with gratitude. Always have a thankful heart.
Give thanks to God for all the people around you, your family, your friends, your officemates, your boss, and to everyone who’s making you who you are. You’ll be surprised how your relationships with them will grow.
Be Grateful For the Love You Gave
Thank God for how you able to show love to others.
If you’re a father, thank God for how you able to spend time with your kids.
If you’re a husband or wife, thank God for you were able to date your spouse despite your busy schedules.
If you’re a son or daughter, thank God you were able to say “I love you” to your parents.
If you’re an employee thank God for your employer.
The Power of Love
By following the steps above you will be “force” to show your love more. Because in step 3 (be grateful for the love you give), you’ll be thanking God for the opportunity you show love. But let me warn you, this isn’t easy. Read on the story below.
One day, there was a lion who called for a meeting with the animals. He said, “Each of you will tell a joke. But everyone must laugh or I’ll eat the one who told the joke.”
The monkey, who knew he was very funny, went up first and told his joke. When he reached the punchline, everyone cracked up. Everyone that is, except one animal: The turtle. He didn’t laugh.
The lion shook his head. He pounced on the monkey and ate him in one gulp. All the animals gasped. The lion called out, “Next!”
The parrot believed he was really funny so he stepped in front and told his joke. When he reached his punchline, all the animals laughed. Except the turtle!
And to everyone’s horror, the lion gobbled up the parrot.
All the animals were angry at the turtle! But they couldn’t say anything in front of the lion.
“Next!” the lion said.
The giraffe stepped up, trembling. He started telling his joke when the turtle began to laugh really hard!
The animals looked at him wondering what he was doing.
The lion asked the turtle, “What’s wrong with you? Giraffe hasn’t reached his punchline yet!”
The turtle said, “Haha! I can’t help it. The monkey’s joke was sooooo funny!”
Give Love but Don’t Expect an Instant Response
Yes. That happens. If you are showing love to your kids, your spouse, your parents, your friends, your employer they too can be a turtle. Slow. But don’t stop loving them until the “get it”. Soon you’ll reap your reward. Let me tell you about my Dad, keep on reading.
When I first say “I love you” to my Dad I get no response. I did it the second, third, fourth time and so on but I received the same “Uhmm”.
But I never stop. I don’t give up. I took it. I was eaten by the lion several times. But I keep on doing it.
“Dad I love you.”
“Uhmm.”
“Dad I love you.”
“Uhmm.”
Until one morning I get my reward, I heard him say “Sige na. Magpa-kabait ka anak (Ok, be good son).”
Since then I never heard him say “Uhmm” again whenever I tell him I love him. Though I never heard him say “I love you too son” yet, I believe sooner I will.
Your Business Is To Make Your Relationships Grow
There’s a story about a big old dog who saw a little dog chasing its tail and asked, “Why are you chasing your tail so?”
The Puppy answered, “I have mastered Philosophy; I have solved the problems of the universe with no dog before me has rightly solved; I have learned that the best thing for a dog is happiness, and that happiness is my tail. Thus, I am chasing it; and when I catch it I shall have happiness.”
The big old dog responded, “My son, I too, have paid attention to the problems of the universe in my own way, and I have formed some opinions. I, too, have judged that happiness is a fine thing for a dog, and that happiness is in my tail. However, I have also noticed that when I chase after it, it keeps on moving away from me, but when I go about my business, it follows me close by.”
Are you chasing your tail in search for happiness? If your business is to find happiness then your business is to grow in your relationships and when you do that happiness will follow you close by.
Become love.
Your K Preacher Wannabe,
Jobie Puno Doblado
P.S.
Focus on one objective: “Make your relationships grow. Become love”.
P.S.2
The 2nd UE Campus Feast will be happening on 30 September, 430-6pm at the UE Theater. All UE students are welcome to attend. For more information please follow the link, Ako? Mahal ko! – UE Campus Feast.
Mr. Pancake Meal
My younger brother works as service crew in McDonalds, Quezon Avenue. He shares with me a story about a painful regret, here goes.
Henry and Liza are good old couple who regularly dine at the store, if not everyday, every other day. They are both nice to the crew and the management. Henry and Liza always offer their sweetest smile whenever they’re there. Good thing to start the day. They are regular breakfast customers.
We call Henry, Mr. Pancake Meal. Here’s why, his order are two piece pancakes with extra butter and strawberry jam, regular coffee with extra sugar (ten sachets) and creamer (ten sachets) and will request for an almost two inches thick tissues.
One morning Liza entered the store alone sobbing. He approached the ordering counter and told us her husband died the other night of heart attack.
Several days after Henry died. Liza entered the store with a younger version of her husband. The younger version sits her mother and approached me.
“Hi I’m Sam. I’m Henry’s son. My Mom told me to make her regular order and Dad’s. Make also one for me.”
I called out, “Two Mr. Pancake Meal please!”
Out of surprise the kitchen crew stares on the dining area looking for Henry.
“I’m not kidding you, it’s for his son.” I said smiling.
To Sam’s amazement, he asked me about the extra butter, the strawberry jam, the ten sachets of sugar and creamer and the two inches thick tissues.
“That’s how your Dad wanted. This is his regular order.“
He stares on his Mom with an almost teardrop on his cheek.
For 40 days, Sam and her Mom walks to the store every morning to reminisce Henry. Unfortunately for Sam, he couldn’t be with his father anymore.
Liza once told us that Henry and Sam has some misunderstandings and has not been talking for the longest time. Henry died without his son’s reconciliation and Sam lives without his Dad’s reconciliation.
The Most Painful Regret
If not taking enough risk is the most common regret a man could ever have, failure in relationship is the most painful one.
Regrets like, “I didn’t spend enough time with my family.”
“I didn’t put people over things”
“I didn’t express my love”
“I didn’t apologize and repair a broken relationship”
Our most painful regret could be that we didn’t love enough.
The Only Key to Happiness
God wants you to be happy. This is what I believe: God has already lined up all the right blessings, all the right miracles and all the right people to bless your life. Especially the right people, your family, your friends, your neighbors, your boss, your officemates and all the people around you.
Because God wants you to be happy by having happy relationships; God only has one strategy to make you happy and it's through happy relationships, nothing more nothing less. No plan B. It’s through happy relationships or bust.
Because if you squeeze out the essence of life, you will realize that life is all about relationships. Your happiness, your success, your health, and your dreams depend on your relationships. In other words your life is all about love. That is why the greatest commandment is about love; Because God wants us to be happy.
Friends my big message for you today is: “Become love.”
Becoming Love
You might ask, “If the only key to happiness is becoming love, how do I do it?”
There’s the word, “gratitude”. I read this from a book:
Love creates forgiveness.
Forgiveness creates acceptance.
Acceptance creates gratitude.
Gratitude creates happiness.
Thus, if you want to be happy, be grateful.
Three Steps to Having a Happy Relationship
According to a Catholic Lay Preacher and writer Bro. Bo Sanchez, there are really three steps to becoming love. Step 1, be grateful for you, step 2, be grateful for the love you received and lastly, be grateful for the love you gave.
Be Grateful For You
The adage that says “You can never give what you don’t have” will always remain true.
How do you become love if you don’t love yourself?
Reflect on this, the Bible said “God knitted you in your mother’s womb”. Take note of the word knitted. God don’t just line you up in a manufacturing assembly nor let you mass reproduced by angels in heaven.
God personally knitted you.
Specially and wonderfully made, so why would you feel ungrateful for who you are?
Starting today, thank God for who you are and be grateful for the blessings He has poured in your life.
Be Grateful For the Love You Received
I heard of a story about a man who walks in a bar and ordered a drink. The bartender asked the man why he is drinking. The man said, “I have been working so hard for this. I should have earned P500,000 instead of P250,000. I’m 50% below my set quota and I feel bad about it. Damn!”
Several minutes later a group of men entered the bar in celebration mode. The bartender asked them what’s the call for the celebration; The happiest in the group said, “My boss increased my salary from P19,000 to P19,570. It pays off all the great things I did for the company. God has been so good to me. I feel so blessed!"
Is P250,000 close to P570? Obviously no, it’s not even 1%. What lies between them is gratitude, a thankful heart.
The same is true with relationships. If you want to grow in your relationships, be grateful for the love you received. Always fill the gap with gratitude. Always have a thankful heart.
Give thanks to God for all the people around you, your family, your friends, your officemates, your boss, and to everyone who’s making you who you are. You’ll be surprised how your relationships with them will grow.
Be Grateful For the Love You Gave
Thank God for how you able to show love to others.
If you’re a father, thank God for how you able to spend time with your kids.
If you’re a husband or wife, thank God for you were able to date your spouse despite your busy schedules.
If you’re a son or daughter, thank God you were able to say “I love you” to your parents.
If you’re an employee thank God for your employer.
The Power of Love
By following the steps above you will be “force” to show your love more. Because in step 3 (be grateful for the love you give), you’ll be thanking God for the opportunity you show love. But let me warn you, this isn’t easy. Read on the story below.
One day, there was a lion who called for a meeting with the animals. He said, “Each of you will tell a joke. But everyone must laugh or I’ll eat the one who told the joke.”
The monkey, who knew he was very funny, went up first and told his joke. When he reached the punchline, everyone cracked up. Everyone that is, except one animal: The turtle. He didn’t laugh.
The lion shook his head. He pounced on the monkey and ate him in one gulp. All the animals gasped. The lion called out, “Next!”
The parrot believed he was really funny so he stepped in front and told his joke. When he reached his punchline, all the animals laughed. Except the turtle!
And to everyone’s horror, the lion gobbled up the parrot.
All the animals were angry at the turtle! But they couldn’t say anything in front of the lion.
“Next!” the lion said.
The giraffe stepped up, trembling. He started telling his joke when the turtle began to laugh really hard!
The animals looked at him wondering what he was doing.
The lion asked the turtle, “What’s wrong with you? Giraffe hasn’t reached his punchline yet!”
The turtle said, “Haha! I can’t help it. The monkey’s joke was sooooo funny!”
Give Love but Don’t Expect an Instant Response
Yes. That happens. If you are showing love to your kids, your spouse, your parents, your friends, your employer they too can be a turtle. Slow. But don’t stop loving them until the “get it”. Soon you’ll reap your reward. Let me tell you about my Dad, keep on reading.
When I first say “I love you” to my Dad I get no response. I did it the second, third, fourth time and so on but I received the same “Uhmm”.
But I never stop. I don’t give up. I took it. I was eaten by the lion several times. But I keep on doing it.
“Dad I love you.”
“Uhmm.”
“Dad I love you.”
“Uhmm.”
Until one morning I get my reward, I heard him say “Sige na. Magpa-kabait ka anak (Ok, be good son).”
Since then I never heard him say “Uhmm” again whenever I tell him I love him. Though I never heard him say “I love you too son” yet, I believe sooner I will.
Your Business Is To Make Your Relationships Grow
There’s a story about a big old dog who saw a little dog chasing its tail and asked, “Why are you chasing your tail so?”
The Puppy answered, “I have mastered Philosophy; I have solved the problems of the universe with no dog before me has rightly solved; I have learned that the best thing for a dog is happiness, and that happiness is my tail. Thus, I am chasing it; and when I catch it I shall have happiness.”
The big old dog responded, “My son, I too, have paid attention to the problems of the universe in my own way, and I have formed some opinions. I, too, have judged that happiness is a fine thing for a dog, and that happiness is in my tail. However, I have also noticed that when I chase after it, it keeps on moving away from me, but when I go about my business, it follows me close by.”
Are you chasing your tail in search for happiness? If your business is to find happiness then your business is to grow in your relationships and when you do that happiness will follow you close by.
Become love.
Your K Preacher Wannabe,
Jobie Puno Doblado
P.S.
Focus on one objective: “Make your relationships grow. Become love”.
P.S.2
The 2nd UE Campus Feast will be happening on 30 September, 430-6pm at the UE Theater. All UE students are welcome to attend. For more information please follow the link, Ako? Mahal ko! – UE Campus Feast.
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